Support for ADD / ADHD
As a kid I didn't fit the ADD profile in many ways. I was quiet, a great student. Honor student. I did have trouble with reading comprehension. Now I realize it's because it's hard for me to concentrate on what I am reading. I am so distracted. I read a sentence and I only mouthed it sort of, I understood nothing of it. Because my mind wandered to something else. It wasn't until after high school that the sypmtoms clearly showed themselves. I flunked so many of my classes in college. I couldn't study. All my structure was gone and I failed miserably. Later I began drinking and realized it was to self-medicate. I was drinking everyday to calm my nerves I would tell myself. Now I don't drink I have 3 kids and am married to someone who is not like me, he does not have ADD. Very calm guy who I feel nags me but it s because I need his help in giving me some structure. I am always behind on things. I just can't quite get it together. I suffer from depression and have been on medication for six years now. I don't have bi polar disorder but ADD for women hits the spot. When my kids talk to me I have to have my feet somehow moving it drives me crazy having to sit and wait out what they are trying to tell me. I am so impatient. I have some things to help me explain the ADD. I came into therapy because I am an impulsive spender. I finally said that I needed some help. I could not control it on my own. The ADD explains so much! I feel as if I am after "the chase" or "the hunt" because if I lose interest in something I pick up another thing and am really excited for a time. My husband says it's like a fad. It changes all the time. My husband is the most patieint guy in the world. He lives with a messy house, meals that are not on time, my terrible bad spending and he loves me still. I do hire a cleaning person to help keep the house in order. I try as I may but I just can't seem to get it all done. I hired a professional organizer to help me get my paperwork organized. She helped a lot but I still have to do the work of getting organized. I am doing much better. My desk is much less cluttered than before and papers are in their rightful spot. Bills get paid on time because I know exactly where they are. I keep a calendar that is used and I am thankful for that. But don't come to my house, I stopped having anyone over unless I super cleaned because I am embarrassed of critical comments. I'm a messy housekeeper and it bothers me but I just can't fix this problem. As for losing things, I am always losing my purse int he house. Can't find it right away. I have good luck with finding the keys as I place them in the same spot most of the times. That is all for now.
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Permalink Reply by Jim on February 1, 2012 at 9:15pm Danielle--You sound to me like are in the process of what I am calling "embracing ADD" rather than trying to "fight ADD"
Jim
Permalink Reply by Elaine on February 23, 2012 at 1:57pm I was same as you except I didn't have trouble with reading comprehension, either. I did have major problems with follow through, though, and flunked classes too. The major hint for me that I'd always had ADD is that I could never listen to a lecture without drawing and sketching...I couldn't ever "just do one thing."
What meds do you take for your depression? Have you ever tried Flylady? I used her method years ago to get more on track with housework and meals. Although I'm still inconsistent, things are a LOT better than they used to be in that area.
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