As a kid I didn't fit the ADD profile in many ways.  I was quiet, a great student.  Honor student.  I did have trouble with reading comprehension.  Now I realize it's because it's hard for me to concentrate on what I am reading.  I am so distracted.  I read a sentence and I only  mouthed it sort of, I  understood nothing of it.  Because my  mind wandered to something else.  It wasn't until after high school that the sypmtoms clearly showed themselves.  I flunked so many of my classes in college.  I couldn't study.  All my structure was gone and I failed miserably.  Later I began drinking and realized it was to self-medicate.  I was drinking everyday to calm my nerves I would tell myself.  Now I don't drink I have 3 kids and am married to someone who is not like me, he does not have ADD.  Very calm guy who I feel nags me but it s because I need his help in giving me some structure.  I am always behind on things.  I just can't quite get it together.  I suffer from depression and have been on medication for six years now.  I don't have bi polar disorder but ADD for women hits the spot.  When my kids talk to me I have to have my feet somehow moving it drives me crazy having to sit and wait out what they are trying to tell me.  I am so impatient.  I have some things to help me explain the ADD.  I came into therapy because I am an impulsive spender.  I finally said that I needed some help.  I could not control it on my own.  The ADD explains so much!  I feel as if I am after "the chase" or "the hunt" because if I lose interest in something I pick up another thing and am really excited for a time.  My husband says it's like a fad.  It changes all the time.  My husband is the most patieint guy in the world.  He lives with a messy house, meals that are not on time, my terrible bad spending and he loves me still.  I do hire a cleaning person to help keep the house in order.  I try as I may but I just can't seem to get it all done.  I hired a professional organizer to help me get my paperwork organized.  She helped a lot but I still have to do the work of getting organized.  I am doing much better.  My desk is much less cluttered than before and papers  are in their rightful spot.  Bills get paid on time because I know exactly where they are.    I keep a calendar that is used and I am thankful for that.  But don't come to my house, I stopped having anyone over unless I super cleaned because I am embarrassed of critical comments.  I'm a messy housekeeper and it bothers me but I just can't fix this problem.  As for losing things, I am always losing my purse int he house.  Can't find it right away.  I have good luck with finding the keys as I place them in the same spot most of the times. That is all for now. 

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Danielle--You sound to me like are in the process of what I am calling "embracing ADD" rather than trying to "fight ADD"

Jim

Welcome!

I was same as you except I didn't have trouble with reading comprehension, either. I did have major problems with follow through, though, and flunked classes too. The major hint for me that I'd always had ADD is that I could never listen to a lecture without drawing and sketching...I couldn't ever "just do one thing." 

What meds do you take for your depression? Have you ever tried Flylady? I used her method years ago to get more on track with housework and meals. Although I'm still inconsistent, things are a LOT better than they used to be in that area.

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