"Norma--I was pleasantly surprised to see a paperback on ADD lying around on the floor tonight. It wasn't mine so, it must be my wife's. This could be a good sign that she is trying to gain some insight into ADD.  "

"Jim >>> yep, & when we first got together, my spouse had never heard of this disorder & thought that I was 'faking it' to get by with being a you-know-what :( Those were dark times, but we worked thru them & now have a…"

"Norma--Your reply could have been written by my wife---The key thing for us has been my study of ADD--I understand a few things better these days and I must remind myself that she cannot stop some of this stuff. I gave up alcohol cuz this made our…"

"My spouse is in the same boat you are, I know that most of our fights are because of me but I can't help it. It's not like I do that stuff on purpose, iinsidr I'm having a war with myself., it's hard to explain I know the…"

"Charl--Great suggestion about the walking.  Jim "

"Notalone--I am so glad to read that you have a 12 step book about ADD. I tried to find one via google a few weeks back but came up empty. I doubt my wife would use it but I am trying to learn as much as I can about ADD. Can you…"

"My wife exercises at the gym 2X/week for 90+ minutes (swim and stationary bike). I know she would like/benifit from 3-4 X/week if schedule allowed. This is needed for her to do anywhere close to well as I see it. Both of us would be better off…"

"Hi--Notalone--Wow--Thanks for sharing---We had a development yesterday. I photocopied some ADD literature and left it for my wife to read--I wrote "FYI--I found this interesting" on the page. Fast forward--not well received--but on the +…"

"You seem filled with layers of understanding about this issue. I have more to say but i am at work now......... "

"Danielle and Notalone--I really enjoy and get comfort from the way you open up and share how you are dealing with ADD stuff head on. I am the non-ADDer (relatively) in our house. I so wish my wife would get involved with this site but I am hesitant…"

"The thing that I like about what you wrote is that it shows some knowledge of self and  the ability to use that knowledge to develop stategies and rewards for self to change that with which self is dissatisfied. Did you have a coach help you…"

"Danielle--Please forgive if my writing seems rushed. I am at work and only have 20 minutes. Remember--I am the spouse of an ADDer. I do not think my lovely wife has accepted the ADD as much as you seem to have accepted it. Her…"