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Comment by Kelsey Michelle on February 23, 2012 at 7:10pm

I am also 20 with add. Honestly he needs to accept that he has it and want to improve for himself. I also can get angry extremely fast but I am aware of this quality and when it happens I have trained myself to go in another room and count to 10 while taking deep breaths and then returning to the situation. While i am taking those deep breaths I view the situation from the other persons point of view. I know this is harder said then done but it helps a lot for me. Also exercise is a miracle worker. My wii has become the best stress and anger relief ever; even a simple walk can also help though. As for the job situation, a job is for money not for fun. I know as of now I work as a cashier and a lot of times it can be slow and i just stand there. I try to ask managers if there are any little jobs I can do if I am really spastic that day and that sometimes helps. Even just setting goals with money can help. Having a goal with what he wants to earn in savings in a certain amount of time may motivate him to keep a job for a longer period of time. Telling himself he needs to put aside a certain amount of money each week for his daughters future education might be a motivation too. I am not saying hundreds of dollars but even $10 a week. As for courses I would say have him start 1-2 online courses with a community college. See how he does with those and then you can decide if he is better off in a classroom setting or if he can handle the setting of it being online.

I know many people with add who look at it as the world is against them and they need extra help but I view it as ok i have a speed bump I have to go over but I am just as capable as anyone else I just need to control my mind and body and know myself better. It can not be an excuse.