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Something has always been on my mind when it comes to my ADD. I find I talk a lot. By a lot I mean if given the chance I never shut up. I took a road trip with my friend which was 3 hours long and I realized when we got there I had talked the entire trip and none of it was even that important. I don’t know if this is just me or if this is common with ADD. It has affected my friendships, my relationship with my bf and also my work. I tend to not have many boundaries; I will talk to anyone who will listen. Lately I try to notice it and correct myself. I have to tell myself to paused and ask the other person about how they are doing and bring up things going on in their lives. With this I find that a lot of the time I will have conversations with people and act a certain way then when I get home I think to myself wow I was annoying. I don’t want to be that person but I can’t help it. This is definitely a current struggle because I think to myself I wouldn’t even want to be friends with me if I met myself somewhere. Does anyone have suggestions for this? I know it sounds bad but it’s like I have an outer body experience. I know it isn’t going how I want it to but it just continues.
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Comment by Elizabeth on February 22, 2012 at 1:08pm -
I can definitely relate to this Kelsey! I think you are doing a really good thing by trying to purposely take pauses and ask the person a question about how they are doing. I have to do the exact same thing, sometimes thoughts can come so quickly in the ADD brain it's like we are moving at lighting speed, and if you are an extrovert like myself you just have to get everything out. I try to watch how my more introverted friends interact with people because they are some of the best listeners I know - watching them and trying to mimic their listening skills is one way I work on the talking issue. I totally relate to you though.
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Comment by Frank Allen on February 22, 2012 at 3:32am -
I I tiotally get were you comming from with that.
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Comment by Charlotte on February 16, 2012 at 3:32pm
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Hi Talkative, my husband and adult son have ADD and they are just as you describe yourself. My son took meds (don't remember which med) for a while and he was a changed person. He didn't talk incessantly. He could have an actual conversation, both listening and contributing, and didn't interrupt either. Unfortunitly, he lost his insurance so stopped the meds. He is still aware of his talking behavior and consciously tries to control it. I notice that when he drinks (beer) he becomes very talkative again. You could ask your doctor about meds and/or try behavior modification therapy. You are aware of your behavior which is a step in the right direction.
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Comment by Tiffani on February 10, 2012 at 11:22am -
I know your pain I have found myself saying the very same thing to myself. What is worse is that when I do stop to listen if what they have to say does not interest me I cut them off by chagning the subject. Then later I think OMG! I was so rude. I have had to make a strong intention to shut-up. I say how are you and shut up, it is hard but you can do it. It still happens but far less frequently. Good luck.
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